- by Jared
“But eating healthy takes too long”
I always hear this …
This excuse/mindset, along with “I’m too lazy”, are the top two reasons people tell me they don’t eat healthy.
Now I’m not going to wag my finger at you and say Just Do It, Stop Being Lazy, etc.
I understand how difficult motivation can be, even for very easy things.
Hell, for the majority of my life I’ve been socially awkward and have avoided people, parties, connection by saying things to myself like:
– I’m tired
– I have too much stuff to do
– Connecting is hard
So anyways, this email is about How Health Doesn’t Need To Take Much Time.
To prove the point, I filmed myself cooking earlier today on Facebook Live.
It took me 10 minutes.
And I was talking!
Now I’m not saying this to brag …
Just to make a point.
Oftentimes when we feel ‘incompetent’ or ‘not-good-enough’ we will self sabotage.
We’ll say things to ourselves to like ‘this is too difficult’.
We’ll say things like ‘I don’t have enough time’.
And don’t get me wrong …
I’m sure you don’t have much spare time.
Nobody has spare time.
But the reason some people are held back by things like cooking and connecting is NOT because of a lack of motivation.
Deep down you feel incompetent.
(For me I identify my deepest feelings I want to avoid as incompetence, or failure. Other people might desperately want to avoid something like guilt, shame, anger, sadness)
And you don’t want to face that.
In terms of cooking, if you feel incompetent or don’t have enough time I’d like to gently suggest two things:
1) you don’t have to be perfect
2) cooking, like most things in life, is a skill. You will be slow in the beginning. You will feel incompetent. But not forever. You’ll grow and learn quickly. You’ll soon be making delicious, nutrious and simple meals at home in 10 minutes like I just did.
Hopefully these two points will help you overcome any insecurities, at least enough to begin the process of growth and learning.
And yes, I realize the discussion on nutrition goes beyond the recommendations I go over in this video.
But you don’t need to get everything perfect in order to start.
You just gotta start small and keep going.
If you can reflect on your experiences, instead of judging your attempts as failures and evidence that you’re a worthless piece of shit – then you WILL gain skills.
And it’s skills that we’re after here in Weight Loss Enlightenment.
That’s a big ‘aha’ for many people, a big enlightenment so to speak …
That it’s not about weight loss, it’s not about appearance …
It’s about feeling good, accepting yourself, doing healthy behaviors that make you feel good, and learning skills so you actually become a BETTER person through your health journey.
PS – I will be interviewing a Intuitive Eating Counselor tomorrow morning. Later I’ll release the episode and podcast. Her name is Wendy and she’s been helping people overcome Eating Disorders for many years now.
Do you have any questions you’d like me to ask her? Hit ‘reply’ to this email and let me know.