Eating Enlightenment is a unique approach to addressing binge eating, emotional eating, bulimia, compulsive eating and other food-related problems.
Eating Enlightenment has four different, nuanced meanings:
There are five primary ways Eating Enlightenment is unique:
There are a few primary differences between Eating Enlightenment and therapy / counseling, most of which are listed above:
For example, reductions in social anxiety, which is a “feel good” goal of many therapeutic treatment approaches, are hard to measure.
Unlike ‘feel good’ forms of therapy and counseling, Eating Enlightenment guarantees measurable reductions in binge eating frequency. For example, you typically will see binge eating go down from 7 times per week on average to 2 times per week on average within 2 months for most people.
After binge eating frequency has been stabilized, a person is in a much better position to learn more about Intuitive Eating!
2. In-The-Moment Support®: See below for more info, but basically more frequent communication.3. Friendship: Your Eating Enlightenment counselor will text or email you during the week to check in.
4. Simple, Effective Approach: Some therapeutic techniques fail to address the underlying mechanisms at the core of binge eating. For example, learning to manage your emotions better, while important, will not lead to the end of bingeing. Other approaches such as Intuitive Eating are often too complicated, at least in the beginning.
There are three main differences between Eating Enlightenment and working with a nutritionist or counselor.
While there are other differences such as the style of treatment, friendship, and In-The-Moment Support®, these have already been discussed above!
For example, oftentimes clients work with many nutritionists who have prescribed various meal plans.
A client will try to follow these meal plans, but usually will be unsuccessful because their deepest subconscious beliefs remain untouched and unexamined. Then the client blames themselves and their binge eating gets worse!
With Eating Enlightenment, you will naturally discover the meaning of regular, nutritious eating yourself, without a counselor commanding or telling you what to eat.
2. Very Simple Meal Structure: 3 meals per day, 1-2 snacks, don’t let more than 5 hours go by without eating, and when you do eat your meals be sure to eat a balanced proportion of carbs, proteins and fats.
Oftentimes nutritionists and dietitians get bogged down on the nutritional details, and clients are left feeling overwhelmed.
You can think of the above meal structure as training wheels to keep you somewhat in balance as you do the real, deep work of CBT in the beginning.
3. No Weight Loss Emphasis: Oftentimes nutritionists and dietitians have an explicit goal to lose weight. Eating Enlightenment the primary objective is eradicating binges. This point is discussed further down below as it’s a very common FAQ.
Eating Enlightenment prides itself on objective success, primarily measurable reductions in binge eating frequency.
This one measure is sufficient in and of itself in assessing the effectiveness of Eating Enlightenment. But then think about all the wonderful consequences!
Let’s remember the proven scientific benefits listed above:
In addition to less binges and these proven benefits, there are so many harder to measure benefits:
What would your life look like if you no longer binged? What would your life look like if all the mental energy you spend thinking about food was redirected towards creative projects? How would you live if you felt confident in social situations around food?
Eating Enlightenment clients report many other benefits, in addition to the concrete measurable reductions in binge eating, such as:
Overall, the benefit I think that’s most heart warming to me is getting to know someone and see their true personality emerge over time.
Usually when someone is trapped by bingeing, they are a shell of their true selves.
After working at an Eating Disorder treatment center and hundreds of individual clients, I notice certain trends of the types of people really benefit from Eating Enlightenment:
If you match these general characteristics please schedule a call below. There are definitive, well-defined, treatment approaches to Binge Eating Disorder.
Let’s get the bad news out of the way first. The primary disadvantage is financial, because Eating Enlightenment is exclusively a coaching treatment model and does not accept insurance.
The second advantage is uncertainty. In working with a coach, you may be working with an unlicensed professional. While there are constraints to working with a licensed therapist in that therapists are limited in their communication and oftentimes boxed into certain rigid ways of thinking, at least you know what you are getting.
For more information about Jared and his educational and experience qualifications, please see his About page here.
Now for the good news. The primary advantage of Eating Enlightenment is that you get more connected with yourself and this sets the stage for a much healthier approach to eating and life in general.
Of course, the other benefits come directly from the five points listed above as to what makes Eating Enlightenment unique:
Intuitive Eating and Eating Enlightenment are different, but similar.
As stated above, Eating Enlightenment teaches clients Cognitive Behavioral Therapy methods first.
After gaining food stability and greater awareness with CBT techniques, then a person is properly prepared for a broader range of food training which is where Intuitive Eating comes in.
Essentially, Intuitive Eating is the second stage of Eating Enlightenment.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is the most popular and researched therapy treatment approach for all disorders in the United States. CBT also has been extensively researched for eating disorders as well.
Overall, CBT is very simple and highly effective.
CBT is based on the idea that your subconscious thoughts underneath conscious awareness control your behavior without you even realizing it.
So while it’s possible to eat mindfully or avoid bingeing for a short period of time, eventually you revert back to your subconscious beliefs and self-sabotage.
In The Eating Enlightenment philosophy, we start with CBT because when people try Intuitive Eating first, they usually totally fall off the wagon because deep down they haven’t uprooted their negative subconscious beliefs about food.
As for the science behind Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, check this meta-analysis of meta-analysis studies on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
This synthesis about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy looked at 269 meta-analyses!
This alone is insane!! Most therapeutic approaches, even if they are highly effective, have only a few meta analysis studies, but Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is so simple, popular and effective that there are over 269 meta analysis studies!
Want to know the conclusion of over 269 meta analysis studies on CBT?
“In general, the evidence-base of CBT is very strong.”
Silly scientists, they always speak in such boring language!
There are 10 principles to Intuitive Eating, and over 125 scientific studies from major universities that have focused on this revolutionary way of eating.
Here is a brief overview of the 10 Principles Of Intuitive Eating:
It’s time to give up on quick, easy and permanent weight loss. You need to see how “following” an external plan whether that be a diet, detox, meal plan or any other restrictive eating set of eating rules only causes you to lose connection to your body, self-sabotage and regain back all the weight you lost. Become familiar with the terrifying long-term science of weight loss and dieting so that you can gain the confidence you need to commit to your body.
Oftentimes people blame themselves for losing control around food. But Intuitive Eating teaches you that if you do not keep your body well-fed with enough energy then your body can think that it’s starving and trigger a survival response. A survival response then causes you to overeat far beyond what is normal. Think of a baby – a baby needs nourishing meals a few times per day, and needs to feel secure and content when feeding.
Oftentimes people hear about “eating whatever they want, whenever they want.” This is not what Make Peace With Food means. While part of this third principle does involve giving yourself permission to eat any food, you also need to go slow and feel safe while you learn that all foods are permissible.
The key thing about this principle is understanding that deprivation is the real cause of binge eating. Binge eating is a symptom of deprivation. If you tell yourself that you can’t have food, you’ll feel deprived. Then this feeling of deprivation will build and build until the pressure becomes too much. Eventually you make one little mistake and then say “what-the-hell” I already screwed up so why not eat and eat and eat? This is a pattern you can learn to spot and overcome with proper training and support.
Since when did having a piece of pizza mean that you were a terrible person? The Food Police are a symptom of how our Western culture moralizes food. You need to learn to pay attention to how you feel physically around food, instead of getting caught by the guilt and shame patterns that prevent learning and only keep you stuck in misery.
One of the most important steps of Intuitive Eating is connecting to the pleasure found in eating. Mindful eating is a component of satisfaction, but this principle also includes paying attention to what you really want and what types of foods make you feel well after eating. If you can separate guilt and shame from your eating, and learn to connect to how your body feels, your body’s compass and taste preferences will gradually and naturally adjust to where you crave ‘healthier’ foods which make your body feel physically better.
As you learn to reconnect to your body, you’ll start coming in touch with the feeling of fullness. This fullness is now able to be respected because you have given yourself permission to eat. Previously you didn’t have permission to eat so you didn’t have permission to stop eating either. But now with permission you can also have permission to stop. And your body will give you signals to stop, and since you aren’t deprived and are mindful and satisfied, you’ll be able to listen to these signals and stop eating as you get full.
Your emotional needs are at the heart of Intuitive Eating. You’ll need to learn to reconnect with what triggers you to lose control and what emotional needs food is temporarily helping you to meet. You’ll need to practice different forms of mindfulness to reconnect with what you really need, and practice skills to soothe, distract, and heal your emotions. A core principle in this step is ‘open awareness’ where you let yourself lean into the discomfort of the cravings in order to learn the deeper message that these cravings are trying to communicate. Of course, this comes after you regain a sense of stability with eating and aren’t so overwhelmed by your cravings so you actually have the presence of mind to do this successfully.
If you only find value and self-esteem in how you look, you’re in for a long ride my friend. You can become healthier, more active, and yes, lose weight. But these are all byproducts that come on their own accord and they can’t be seen as measures of success. Success is where you learn what your body needs and are able to give your body what it needs. Here’s the bottom line: your body is a vehicle for your soul. As such, it deserves respect. And trying to squeeze your body into a smaller shape only backfires with yo-yo dieting and self sabotage which causes you to gain more weight anyways.
Screw exercising to burn calories. Exercise is not meant to be homework! Movement is mood boosting. It’s great for mental health and can enhance happiness. Focus on how you feel from moving your body whether that’s lifting weights or gardening or walking. As you pay attention to what makes you feel satisfied in terms of eating, you’ll also be able to notice what feels good in terms of food too.
Nutrition is important, but it’s important to notice how nutrition makes you feel. If you are no longer dieting and see food through moral perspectives, you can listen honestly to how food makes you feel. In general the more wholesome foods will give you more stamina and energy and you’ll start to crave these ‘healthier foods’ more over time.
Both Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Intuitive Eating are well established treatment models that have shown a variety of measurable benefits.
For example, a “Meta-analysis of the effects of cognitive-behavioral therapy for binge-eating-type disorders” of over 27 studies found that:
“Findings suggest that CBT for eating disorder can be effectively delivered in real-world settings. This study provides evidence for the generalizability of CBT from controlled research settings to routine clinical services”.
Now perhaps even more promising is the author’s actual scientific research.
Yes, you can see this for yourself immediately on the first page in the link above:
“The percentage of treatment completers who achieved abstinence at post-treatment was 42.1% (95% CI = 34.7-50.0).”
This is crazy stuff, ladies and gentlemen.
42% of people who completed treatment achieved abstinence.
Plus, there are many other reliably measurable benefits including:
What’s unique to Eating Enlightenment is putting the relatively more simple CBT training first, and then moving onto Intuitive Eating once a client has gained proficient skills.
This process of course varies from person to person, but in general you can expect 15-20 sessions of CBT first before ‘graduating’ onto the Intuitive Eating training.
There are 4 main, initial conditions, which 99% of clients fall into fairly neatly:
Depending on your presenting struggles, proper techniques and treatment methodologies will be devised accordingly.
Frequent communication is often missing in your typical relationships with therapists, or your infrequent visits to the doctor.
For example, you meet with your therapist once a week, but what if you need help during the other 6 days?
By working with a coach, you can have a more frequent communicative relationship. This is because a coach can and will communicate via text or email in between sessions.
In-The-Moment Support® goes a step further, to the moment before a binge when you can still make a different decision but you are having a hard time actually making that decision to not binge.
With In-The-Moment Support® you can email or text when you are having urges and have a little conversation in-the-moment. Calling is reserved for the weekly or twice-weekly sessions.
For example, one video testimonial that you can see on my website shows a woman who had binge eating problems for 40 years. She never had anyone to talk to about her struggles.
Working with me, for the first time in her life, she could text someone and ask for help in the middle of a binge. Now she is binge free, after 40 years!
I know this sounds crazy, but that’s only because no one else is doing it.
But it works. Why? The most critical moment in ending binge eating is being able to catch yourself right before you binge, and to write out your thoughts on paper so that you can detach yourself from your thoughts.
However, this process is very difficult in the beginning and is much easier if you get some In-The Moment Support®!
Please note: this is not mandatory, but simply a genuine offer of service. The best cure, at the end of the day, is confession. Being able to confess and open up without being judged, or being pressed to change faster than natural.
Jared loves the tools of Eating Enlightenment because of how quickly you can begin to see results. Often within 1 week of food journaling, a client will experience an ‘Eating Enlightenment’. After another week or two of work, binge eating frequency can go down dramatically.
However, as with any real and deep process, these powerful effects deepen and spread over time. Clients usually repeatedly access deep parts of themselves they didn’t even realize existed!
Over time, the effects become even more profound, including easier and even more consistent access to something Greater (whatever that is for you).
Progressively deepening over time, Eating Enlightenment often shows up in life as a lightness of being and an opening of the heart and mind that delights you in a hard to describe way 😉
Or being able to laugh again or relate or just not be so lonely, to giggle in your step. Or just being able to eat food with your family over the holidays and enjoy the experience!
Eating Enlightenment focuses on changing your deepest relationship with food.
If you are anxious, trapped and restricting food, then you will binge. And many people who diet and binge gain weight.
In contrast, by ending the yo yo dieting cycle and by reducing binge eating frequency, you quite naturally lose a few pounds without even trying.
In these situations, weight loss just happens as a natural byproduct of changing your relationship to food.
However, sometimes people are thin and yet are terrible binge eaters, or have bulimia! In these situations, Eating Enlightenment treatment probably won’t result in weight loss; weight gain may be more probable.
Again, the primary objective measure of Eating Enlightenment treatment is measurable reductions in binge eating frequency. There are many, many other benefits like confidence, self-esteem, body image and so forth too – but weight loss is not being advertised here although it frequently does happen as a natural by product.
One last note: In order to change your deepest relationship with food, you’ll need to be willing to truly examine your fear about gaining weight. Oftentimes this fear of gaining weight actually causes weight gain!
Hey, Jared is the guy writing these words you’re reading right now.
Here’s just a few of my qualifications:
Some other interesting facts about me include:
To read more about Jared, visit my About Page.
If you are burning to move forward in your life, if you “know” what to do but find that you really aren’t doing it, if you are ready willing and able to engage in a deep process now, please click here and fill out a quick application form for a complimentary “Enlightenment Discovery Call”.
Together you and Jared will go over what you want, and how Eating Enlightenment, and working with Jared, might help you get there in a real and powerful way.
As Jared works in close communication with a small number of private clients, he limits his work to people of heart and integrity who are burning to look, feel and be different inside and out, and want to see results. NOW.
Jared works with clients all over the world; his practice is not location-specific. Most of his work is by phone or Zoom.
Jared works with his private clients in personalized programs and packages carefully designed to fit their unique needs.
When you meet with him for a complimentary Enlightenment Discovery Call, you and he will go over what you need and want and which Private Program works best for your concerns.
Jared believes in deep, lasting, meaningful work and does not offer single stand-alone sessions.
While Jared’s work isn’t covered by insurance, many of his corporate clients are able to take advantage of their company’s discretionary health payments. Of course, you’ll need to discuss this with your own tax advisor.
To learn more about Jared, head on over to the About Jared page.
And there also is a lot of small, easy-to-digest, thought-provoking content about Eating Enlightenment and the integration of Eating Enlightenment into your daily life on his blog.
Eating Enlightenment starts very simply. You will be asked to keep a ‘food thought journal’ and to eat one mindful meal per day without distractions.
A mindful meal can be thought of most simply as a meal without your cell phone or TV!
The mindful eating and food journaling exercise will bring up subconscious thoughts around food, which can be brought into the light of awareness.
As you literally ‘see’ your beliefs on paper then you will naturally start shifting your relationship with food. Intuitive Eating becomes possible then.
There are a few incredibly challenging aspects in working through the Eating Enlightenment approach to food transformation:
You have an eating problem that is interfering with your life and it has been going on for some time now. You know this.
If you have seen a doctor who has seen many other people with eating disorders and this doctor thinks that you would benefit from treatment, then yes.
You have a problem that needs treatment.
Remember, to put it bluntly, who are the experts here.
I’ve never seen a patient who doesn’t get significantly better.
The simple fact of the matter is that practicing food journaling in real time for several weeks can dramatically shift your very perception of food.
I bet you have never done real-time journaling before?
Again, I’m not talking about a food journal, but journaling precisely the moments before eating.
It’s difficult, to be sure. Extremely frustrating.
But at the end of the day, this is the fundamental skill you need to learn:
Delay of gratification.
So if you are held accountable and practice this delay of gratification skill, you can really understand the mental game of warfare that is raging underneath.
Plus, it’s extremely common for patients to continue improving well after treatment!
Now, if a client did need further treatment, I would help arrange this.
Finally, Eating Enlightenment has a 100% money back guarantee.
Overall though, if you worry too much about when you’ll stop bingeing, you’ll just be getting in the way of treatment itself.
What’s best is just focusing on what needs to be done to overcome the problem itself.
I won’t have an excuse for anything anymore.
Such concerns are not uncommon among those with longstanding eating problems.
The main point is that the eating problem interferes with all aspects of functioning and that without the eating problem, you are much more capable and effective than you may assume!
It is usual for there to be major improvements in mood, interpersonal functioning and self-esteem. You may not need an “excuse” for things anymore. As for patients not knowing “who they will be” if they no longer have an eating problem, there is some basis for this concern as your true personality may have been masked by the eating problem.
My stance when faced with this worry is to ask you about how exciting and interesting it will be to find out what your true personality is like and that they should look forward to discovering!
In the beginning CBT part, a daily food journal with mandatory.
This is a very important topic so please see discussion questions below where various additional concerns are addressed.
Basically, the Food Awareness Journal AND recording real-time are the two main driving forces behind the incredible CBT success rate.
As the Food Awareness Journal is such an important step in the beginning, please do familiarize yourself with the introductory concepts around this journal, also addressed down below.
While you likely have recorded calories, that’s not what we are doing here.
The food awareness journal makes no mention of amounts or calories, and instead places emphasis on time, place and most importantly, feelings, thoughts and appraisals.
An appraisal is basically how you interpret a feeling or thought. For example, you have a feeling of sadness, but then what is your appraisal? Are you allowed to be sad? What does sad mean to you? This is how you begin to uncover your subconscious belief!
Furthermore, this is a real-time journal. This is to be done in real time! Not long after, but right before you eat.
It is true that starting to monitor in this way increases preoccupation with
thoughts about eating, but this is a constructive and illuminating preoccupation.
It increases your awareness of your behavior and the thoughts and feelings that accompany it.
It is the beginning of you becoming an expert on your eating problem and starting to understand it. And the preoccupation fades after a few weeks.
Yes. This may be difficult under some circumstances but it should be possible. The day’s record can be stuffed into a pocket or wallet, for example. We have yet to encounter a situation in which recording was truly impossible.
For example, you can use the bathroom in a social situation to jot down notes.
This is not to be recommended. These Eating Enlightenment forms are large enough to allow the detailed recording of behavior, thoughts and feelings and they are capable of being used flexibly. Notebooks tend to restrict the quantity and quality of the information obtained. The forms will be provided during the first session.
Ok, I know you may have questions still. But, you do need to take a leap of faith at some point.
Don’t do so blindly of course, but all I am asking you to do is in the beginning, to keep a simple Food Awareness Journal. This method of keeping a Food Awareness Journal is backed by over 269 meta-analysis studies, and each meta-analysis study contains 30 peer-reviewed scientific studies!
You need to put your faith in Food Awareness Journaling, and to just persevere for just a few months as you completely re-wire your brain. This is tough, yes, but not impossibly so. It only need take a few minutes a day.
And what’s the alternative?
It’s taken me 10+ years to heal and overcome my core sense of shame and mend my eating habits.
But there is definitely an easier path and I’ve simplified this path for you in a step-by-step system which I call Eating Enlightenment. Clients are asked to first follow the incredibly simple and effective system based on the robust, proven and effective science of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
Trust me, if you can follow this one simple rule – journal before you eat in the way prescribed by Cognitive Behavioral Therapy – then you can unlock rapid progress and stop binge eating. This practice will only take 1-3 months, and it won’t be easy, but it’s simple and you definitely can do it.
There is no failure in this method. There is only learning and awareness. You cannot fail. I repeat. You cannot fail. There is no weight loss goal here. The goal is only awareness, and to trust and put all your faith in the power of increasing your awareness via journaling.
If you can journal for a few months and increase your food awareness, you will stop binge eating. Then, you will be in position to truly succeed at Intuitive Eating.
As you stop bingeing and transition onto Intuitive Eating, there will be so many benefits that will begin to unfold in your life. You will literally feel lighter in spirit, body and mind. You will enjoy food much more. Your core sense of self-esteem will rise dramatically as your inner critic starts to naturally evaporate.
You’ll be able to enjoy vacations, friends and family outings that center around food. You’ll be more productive and courageous at work. You’ll be pursue your dreams.
It all starts with the simple, almost spiritual, discipline of food awareness journaling.
If you’re a hardworking individual who struggles with overeating, and if you are willing to embrace a simple, effective Food Awareness method in the beginning for a few months, then let’s chat about how we can potentially work together and get you to stop overeating!